Personality Disorder?

I’m not sure if my husband has a personality disorder but sometimes he hates me, curses at me, and thinks it’s okay. I say mean things too. I struggle with depression, and it’s only gotten worse. He is sick of my kids, called me a chicken sh**, said I have no backbone, and is just angry all the time. He called me a freak, lazy, and an idiot tonight.

I don’t know what to do. I try to tell him that what he said upset me, but then he calls me controlling. He must hate me.

He thinks I have all these hidden agendas, and lots of paranoid thinking. Not sure how to help him when I struggle myself...