Boyfriend SUCKS at making me feel better?

Listen, I know I'm not easy to deal with. Being Bipolar and emotional-af means I'm probably bawling my eyes out every other day or stressed to the Gods about something I perceive as a problem. It's natural for those in a relationship to rely on one another to feel better (obviously not completely, but you get it). The thing is, it's pretty easy to make me feel better- physical contact helps, like big hugs and being told to cuddle up to someone. What works even better is when I'm made to laugh, or even smile a little- if you get me to do that, it's pretty much in the clear. I hate being told "Things will be fine." without evidence that things will be, so it's great when someone walks thru an issue with me step by step to help me understand it or figure things out. My boyfriend of nearly two years finds the afforementioned suggestions to just be COMPLETELY unusable, and, instead, just shuts down and tries to thinkthinkthink until he's got the "perfect" thing to say (which it literally never is). I've tried telling him to do these things in crisis situations, but it's like he just refuses to even TRY. Is it wrong for me to be upset about that? He doesn't have these issues with me because I'm good at consoling others, and I take the time to see what works and what doesn't with certain people instead of just how I want to do things. What does this mean for the future of our relationship? Should I give him some slack because he's only 20 (like me)?