Three methods at once?

Question

So my ldr boyfriend is visiting in a month...we have been dating for 1 1/2 years. Since I will be 18 in July, I’d really like to have sex with him but at the same time I am scared of pregnancy in a paranoid way. We can only meet once a year, so we don’t have the choice to have sex regularly. Plus until my birthday, I would still need my mom’s permission where I live to get BC pills and she can’t know about this. She has made clear that as long as I live with her, she doesn’t want me having sex. Therefore it is difficult for me to take the pill. 
My question is, are condoms + withdrawal + calendar method combined effective ways of birth control? This may sound really paranoid but even the slightest chance makes me worried. What should I do?

Answer

I'm in a LDR too and have used the three methods you mentioned every time. We meet 3 times a year for the past 3 years and have been fine.

Answer

I personally wouldn’t trust pull out or the calendar method bc they’re inaccurate and have high failure rates, however condoms are pretty sound. You could always try it with the cap/spermicide if you wanted to be super careful. What you’ve played shouldn’t fail though if they’re all used in conjunction with each other. If you want to be on the pill you can just tell your mother you have heavy/painful periods or have bad pms. I’ve been on birth control since I was twelve because I was realllllly bad with pms and my periods were horrific. Just tell your mother and explain to her you have friends that use it for pms/pain/heavy flow and that it helps them and it can help you

Three methods at once?

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