Is it too much? Is it cheating?
This is long. And I apologize.
About 4 months ago I came across a conversation in my boyfriends phone where he was talking to one of his female friends about babies being cute, and he jokingly said “wanna make a baby? For cuteness purposes?”
It was a huge fight because that’s obviously inappropriate and crossing the line of what’s okay to say to someone while you’re in a relationship. I trusted him when he said he just wasn’t thinking and didn’t mean anything of it and he would never say anything questionable to anyone again. Well.
I’m not sure how many of you have twitter accounts, but a couple months ago there was a trend where women would text their ex boyfriends or guys they had sex with in the past saying “do I have serious pussy or fun pussy?” And they would post the responses.
The other day, while on vacation with my family and my boyfriend, he showed me a funny message from this girl he always refers to as his “friends old roommate”. Well when he handed me his phone, the messages scrolled up and before I scrolled down to the message he meant to show me, I noticed she had texted him “quick questions do I have serious pussy or fun pussy?”
And he responded “I’m not sure what serious pussy even means. So I’m going to go with fun, hands down”
And that conversation ended there. But it made me chest hurt reading it and I immediately was fuming mad that he would even seriously answer that question?
The thing is, I know he would never cheat on me. When we got together, he hadn’t been with anyone sexually for a couple years. (We’ve been friends for awhile before we started dating) and we waited for a long time before we even had sex, and that was his idea. He’s also just such a nice person and will avoid confrontation at all costs, so That’s why it’s so easy for him to get in those types of situations. But I know that’s no excuse for how he talks to other women and I know at some point I have to say “this is enough and I won’t stick around to see if it’ll happen again”
I just want to know if anyone has any advice, if anyone’s been in a similar situation with their SO and how you handled it?