How do we stop arguing...help!!!

I’ve been with my bf for a little over 4 years today & things have been ok. I say ok because we’ve had our ups & downs throughout the years. We are head over heels for each other & love each other so much, but we just argue over little things all the time. Sometimes those little things escalate for some reason, which has made us take 3 breaks now within the year. We never believed in breaks at all, but we figured it’s better than making a bad decision & just breaking up. Idk.

Anyways last night was really weird. I went over to his house to go swimming. We went swimming & ate pizza after. We were eating pizza in the dining room with The Kingsmen 2 playing on the TV. His 2 brothers were there just sitting on the couch but they weren’t really watching it. My bf said “This is such a kids movie.” & I responded by saying “Yeah it’s a dumb movie.” Right away my bf got offended & yelled in front of his brothers saying why did I say that & what not. I told him to stop yelling but he didn’t. I told him what I really meant to say right after...that kid movies are dumb but I didn’t mean to offend his brothers, which is what he thought I said. He storms off into his room & I just let him go for a few mins.

He was in the middle of redecorating his room all day so when I did to back into his room he was trying to put stuff on the wall. I just wanted to get over the stupid fight & I offered to help him. There was also stuff everywhere so I wanted to finish so we can clean up the room & relax. When I tried to help him he said no. I told him why I wanted to help but he said no again. Idk what was going through my brain but I kept insisting...maybe because I just wanted to get over all of this. He got so annoyed he pushed me away (not a full on push with all his might...just a nudge to get me away). This got me annoyed so I just stood there.

That got him even more agitated & he yelled “Get out of my room! Just leave! Leave!”. He’s never yelled like that at me so I was literally shocked. He than walked over to my clothing rack & started throwing all my clothes on the bed. Than he started throwing my bags on the bed. I kept telling him to stop but he didn’t. He than went for a draw that I have in his dresser with all my products, jewelry, etc & was literally trying to take the drawer out of the dresser. I told him stop again because I thought he was going to dump the whole thing on the floor/bed. I took my foot & just kicked the drawer back in with all my might. He than went back to the rest of my clothes hanging continued to take them off the rack. I told him if he’s going to throw my stuff Ill throw his. So I started taking his clothes in his closet off the rack & threw them on the floor, which obviously made a lot of noise with the hangers clashing on the floor. Both my bf & I are 21 & live with our parents to save money to move out. So his family was home & obviously heard the clashing & what not. His dad knocked on the door & told us to both come out but I was already balling so I didn’t want to leave the room. My bf went out & his dad told him I need to leave. Long story sort of short...a few hours later we both decided to take another break to figure things out. His dad went to go talk to my bf right as I was about to leave & told him he still wanted me to leave & that he expects me to improve. This got me pissed because I feel as if I didn’t escalate this fight. Obviously his parents are going to side with their son, but it sucks that they think I’m a horrible monster. My bf & I planned not to talk until we figured things out, but we’ve been texting today & called last night right when I left. I’ve already texted him some tips & ideas we can do to fix this, but our break is supposed to last until Saturday. I know it’s not a long time but I’ve been thinking that I just want to talk to him in person since we have already figured out what to do. I’d rather not wait for 5 days to just talk about it in person & just be happier sooner...but I’m nervous to ask my bf if he’d like to talk in person in a few days. It’s even more difficult that his parents heard or know about it. Like it was so embarrassing for me for him to yell like that. Do any of y’all have advice on what to do to stop these little fights escalating into huge fights??? How should I ask him about meeting up with him & talking sooner? Any advice helps please!

And for the comment saying “f it out!” I completely agree lol! The past breaks have ended WAYYY earlier than expected due to wanting sex haha...