Sex Tape

**UPDATE: I wasn’t looking through his phone, it was in a memory card that was in a camera. I was looking for something else in the house and came across it. I helped him move into this house, which means he packed it. Reason why I mentioned to him he doesn’t treat me any different then the hookup is because when it comes to sex he doesn’t want to do anything outside of what he has done with other women. I say it to strike a nerve and because he took the same kind of video of me as he did with that girl, mine was without my knowledge. I’m not sure if the girl knew.***

A couple of weeks ago I found a short clip of my boyfriend and another women having sex. The clip is really old from 2011 old.

I brought it up to his attention and he said he didn’t know he still had it. Which I believe is valid. But this discussion took a turn and it went the wrong way. I told him that this video further proves he treats me no different from these random chicks. He didn’t take to kindly to that comment and he flipped it on me and said he can say the same for me, the only difference is that he has no proof. 🙄

So I said well the proof is in the pudding. He said I can’t generalize based on one video. So he goes on to say since I feel that way then that’s what it’ll be. And of course I said play with me if you want, “if that video isn’t deleted by the time I come back to the house, you’re gonna have a bigger problem on your hands.” He said “since I treat you like the rest they never come to my house so how will you know.” 😑

Long story short we broke up last night. Because since he treats me like the rest of them then he doesn’t make them his girlfriend (his words). Am I wrong for bringing it up since it was an old clip? Should I reach out to him?