I need to know ⚠️ 🛑TRIGGER WARNING🛑 ⚠️

I was on an informal date with a 35 year old man when I was 21 and we ended up engaging in sexual things even though I told him I didn’t want to. I didn’t think much of it afterwards and simply tried to not feel disgusted with myself. This week in class we start talking about rapes and date rapes and the ways to recognize and avoid it and it struck me as odd how all the stuff being said reminded me of this date.

First off it wasn’t even a real date, previously we had kissed and he was a great kisser so I agreed to hang out with him. When I was there already he invited me to eat and eventually it turned into a real date with this guy. He bought me a ton of beer and would always have a pint ready before I was even finished with the previous one. I got super drunk and then he took me to this place he told me he wanted me to see. While we were there he started making sexual advances towards me and I told him over and over I didn’t want to have sex and that I was on my period so please stop trying. He was forceful and took his pants off and took his dick out. And while we were making out and things were steaming up I was telling him that I didn’t want to engage in sex. So he takes off my pants and pulls out my tampon and tries to penetrate me. I try to pull away but he grabs me and he’s being forceful. I want out of this situation but the only way I feel like I can is to fake my way through it and get it over with. So I do just that. I didn’t feel anything the whole time but I made him think it only took me 30 seconds to climax. Then he got mad because I didn’t want to keep going and left him with blue balls. My final attempt to get him off is to tell him that I have to pee and I can’t hold it any longer. He drops me off at my car while I’m still drunk and takes off promising not to tell anyone of this. But of course he does. He tells his friend (at the time this friend is my current husband; they are no longer friends) and on top of that he tells his friend’s mom (my now mother in law) that we had sex and gives them all the details of this. Which I later find out about and am super embarrassed about now.

Does this count as possible date rape? Please don’t hate as it’s an actual question that I feel I need answers to. It’s now been close to 5 years since this happened to me and I’m still living with the remorse of even agreeing to hang out with him but having a clear answer to this will hopefully give me some much needed closure.

Thanks in advance.