I’m a little sad that my SO is compromising to please me. 😔😕😢

I know that every relationship has compromise. But I’m a little bit sad that we are compromising on having children.

I’m 30 and I can hear that fucking biological clock ticking like a fucking bomb about to destroy my sanity (my mum went through menopause in her 30’s so I have a valid reason to be worried).

My SO and I have been having talks about marriage and children since we got together so we knew it was definitely on the table for both of us. I would like to start trying for babies early next year, and my SO has said he would be happy to start in 6-12 months.

I was pretty damn happy about that UNTIL my partner told me tonight that if we weren’t worried about my biological clock, he would prefer to wait another 3-4 years before starting our family. (He had a couple of beers and I asked him some sneaky questions to get the truth out of him)

I know I shouldn’t think so much about it because he has said he is happy to start our family next year, but I’m kind of upset that I am forcing his hand with this.

I told him that if he truly wants to wait 3-4 years and would prefer to maybe be with someone a little younger so he doesn’t have this hanging over his head, that it’s okay. I really just want him to be happy. We’ve decided to stick to the 6-12 month plan but I just feel sad for him.

He really wants children and he is going to be the best dad. But he is doing his pilots licence at the moment and I know he would prefer to finish that and build up his hours to get a better job before he has dependents.

I have $75,000 saved up, I also got qualified in a job that will allow me to work with some flexibility when I’m a mum so I can bring in some more money. We have a very solid relationship too. As far as I’m concerned, now is a great time to have a family. I just wish our timelines weren’t out f sync.

😔