So, I ended it with my soon to be ex husband in July. We moved to his home state of Hawaii back in January due to him being discharged from the military. I was born and raised in Washington state which is where we came from. Well, once we moved here, things got really bad. He was lying to me all the time, keeping things from me, controlling everything I did. We had been married for 6 years but together for almost 7. We have one daughter together (my youngest) and I have a daughter from a previously relationship (oldest). All because I wanted a divorce, he is now threatening to keep our youngest from me and her sister.

I got an amazing job opportunity back in Washington and I plan on leaving at the end of this month. He told me that our youngest will be staying here with him and he will fight for 50/50 custody, but because I’m going to be 3k miles away, I don’t see how that is going to work. I’ve talked to multiple attorneys about this and they all tell me the same thing; ‘Leave your youngest here and go back home with your oldest until the divorce is finalized’. Thing is, we don’t have a parenting plan or custody order for our youngest, so I don’t see how it would be kid napping if I took her with me. I just don’t know what to do because she is my world and I can’t imagine it without her. He is only doing this crap because he’s hurt and wanting to be petty due to the fact that I finally had the balls to leave him.

The reason why I’m going back home is because both of my daughters don’t like it here in Hawaii and we all want to be back with our family and friends. I sacrificed so much for this man only to get screwed over. Plus, it’s too damn expensive to live in Hawaii as a single mom. There is just no way. The job I have now doesn’t pay enough for rent alone.

I don’t know what to do..