“Just you wait” comments 🙄

So, I’ll start by saying that this is my second pregnancy. We’d have a 1 year old little boy in August, but that pregnancy sadly didn’t work out. I struggled with some severe depression over it and am still a little sensitive regarding the event. However, Im currently due to have our rainbow baby girl in May, and we couldn’t be more excited about that. I’ve been soaking up the experience and fantasizing about what life will be like when she’s here (parenthood: the challenges & all of the wonderful parts).

This being said, I just have to complain for a moment about all of the “just you wait” comments and opinions that have started to flood in. It almost feels inescapable. I know they come from well intentioned friends/family/maybe strangers. I think most people don’t even realize that they do it. It’s like another parent’s ‘one up’ attempt at boasting their own experiences and shedding their ‘wisdom’ (despite how recently acquired) on my poor inexperienced pregnant self.

“You’re tired? Just wait until she’s born.”

“Wait till you’re a mom, then you’ll see.”

“Just wait.”

I get it, momming is hard. Things you expect to happen don’t always. Just because I don’t have a baby yet (even though I feel like I SHOULD already be a mother—ouch!) doesn’t mean that I’m unaware to what lies ahead. But, can’t I just learn those things as I go along without having to hear how it’s GOING to be? Can’t I just enjoy this experience as my own without someone making it about theirs or telling me how my life as a mother or baby will be?

If the opinion isn’t asked for, consider keeping it to yourself. Maybe instead, just be happy for your pregnant friend.

“You’ve got so much to look forward to.”

I’d like to think while we will/do share the same struggles & joys as parents, they’re still unique to each experience.

I hope to remember the way these comments made me feel in the future when I’m around newly pregnant friends/acquaintances. I also really hope to learn of better ways to respond to these comments, as I’m sure there are so many more to come 🤦‍♀️.

Anyone else struggle with this?