Father daughter dance.

Today my oldest (who’s in pre-K) brought home a father daughter dance invitation.

I literally almost cried and had to keep it together when she showed me.

When I was 14, my cousin at the time (around the same grade or kindergarten, I don’t really remember) had also brought a father daughter dance invite home. My mom and I were over at my aunts but she wasn’t there and it was only my uncle (her husband) and older cousin (he was 15).

She was Excited when she showed him and she said she couldn’t wait. I sat there thinking “Man I never remember ever having a father daughter dance invitation or anything, and our school never did them” so I said it out loud and asked my mom. My mom was about to say something and my uncle cut her off and said

“They did do them. Both schools you went too. You didn’t have a father to take you so your grandfather ripped them up. Or we hid them” as in him or my grandparents.

I kid you not this broke me that day. I cried about it literally as soon as we got home till next morning. Till my cousins dance he rubbed it in about how I didn’t have my dad and they made it such an extra thing for my cousin just to prove a point. Also this was around the time when I would consistently ask or wonder about him.

My grandparents made my mom leave my dad because they didn’t like him and they would consistently belittle him. Every time he called they would hang up on him or every time he sent me something (for birthdays ect) they would throw it away. They did that till I was about 13 and I found out through my dad most of the truth or what was going on when they were together (he found me on FB) my mom told me a lot of the truth too about everything which I won’t go into much detail since it’s very long.

It just brings up SO MUCH Memories. And I am happy that my daughters won’t go through the same thing. It puts me in tears, I can’t wait till I tell my husband when he comes home and I know he will be just as excited to take her as she is to go. I’m so happy that maybe one day she will remember this.

This literally might be nothing for some of you but to me it means the world and I’m happy that history won’t repeat when it comes to little things like this. My 3 girls are going to experience all the wonderful things a father has to offer and I can’t wait.

Cheers to all the wonderful fathers out there🎉