Like, say a child falls out his treehouse and breaks some ribs. That's not a good time to tickle him. Hope this helps.
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mr
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Fucking hate being tickled, I never tickle my kids
Me
Me ⢠Feb 4, 2019
My dad used to tickle me until I cried. I hated it. It was so fucked up. If anyone tries to tickle me as an adult I snap a bit.
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TheNatureGirlAdgeFlair ⢠Feb 3, 2019
Me too! I was the odd kid, donât tickle me and donât you DARE put a fkn sticker on me aunt Janine!!
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đś ⢠Feb 3, 2019
Me too. It hurts me and I get would get so upset when someone didnât stop.
Sh
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đđđ oh my lanta. It's fun, a parent and any sane person knows the difference between a laughing "stop" and an uncomfortable "stop"
Sh
Sh ⢠Feb 4, 2019
YUCK. I'm sorry, I cant believe your mom didnt do anything
Al
Al ⢠Feb 4, 2019
I am still bothered by when my uncle tickled me as a kid. He would do it until I peed. Once he did it when I was about 8 or 9 under my shirt and I was super self conscious because things were starting to change there. He wouldn't stop and my mom just watched. He definitely took it way too far.
Ki
KillerKakapo ⢠Feb 4, 2019
@Sam I can see where youâre coming from (teaching children that their ânoâsâ are important and explaining if we have to go against them), there can be grey areas. @KittyCatt seems to know her child well and is teaching her about the hard ânoâsâ with her grandpa. I definitely used to be a child that would playfully say no to my mom and she recognized it. The problem only occurred when she started ignoring the hard ânoâsâ and my clear discomfort. I still have fond memories of us playing around and her listening to me when I really meant it. There doesnât have to be a black and white to everything. One could make the argument that black and white is easier for children to understand but at that point it is a parenting decision. As long as someone truly knows their child and listens to them, I donât believe anything is wrong.
Qu
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I donât remember which country it was, but I did read that a country way back in the day used tickling as a form of torture. It does get painful after a while, and people often take it too far because they think their laughing victim is having fun as well. Yes I tickle my kids, but stop as soon as they say/ only tickle for so long. I want them to enjoy it rather then dreading it like I do since people in my life have taken it too far.
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QueenBee320 ⢠Feb 3, 2019
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Yup it can be. The laughter that occurs is likely a reflex and doesnât at all indicate the person you are tickling is laughing out of pleasure. It used to be used as a form of torture đ. I hated being tickled as a kid, it gave me panic attacks and made me feel like I couldnât escape, but I was laughing so was never taken seriously. I was taught just to take it.I donât understand why people get mad, when helpful information comes out and gets shared.
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E ⢠Feb 3, 2019
*contradicts
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E ⢠Feb 3, 2019
I completely agree! It can be fun, but if weâre not mindful it can be traumatic (like you said). I agree with the point about intentions and I think itâs mixed with willful ignorance. People want to believe what they want to believe and if thereâs evidence that contracts those beliefs all of a sudden the âsnowflakeâ and âeveryone is offendedâ attacks come out.
Sa
Sa ⢠Feb 3, 2019
Itâs like people think if the intentions are good, it canât possibly be harmful to someone.
Va
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Being tickled is actually a great early way to teach a child about consent. Some kids love to be tickled and ask to be (my 7yo daughter is one of them), and others donât... it can also depend on who is doing the tickling and how comfortable they feel being touched by that person... the main point is that they know the moment they say ânoâ or âstopâ or do anything to show itâs not fun anymore, it stops completely. Likewise it can show them when they should stop tickling somebody... I hate being tickled, always have... I had an uncle who thought it was all in good fun to tickle to the point of begging to stop... he wasnât a pervert or anything, he just didnât think about it being a bad thing for kids because he was raised the same. I have explained to my daughter that I donât like it, and she has learned not to tickle Mommy because you donât touch people in ways they donât want you to
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