Sick of the accusations.. What would you do?

So my husband and I have been together for 5 years, 4 of them married. When we first got together everything was great, great communication and we trusted each other.

But ever since we got married it has started to go down hill. It started pretty much after we got married. I found out I was pregnant the week of our wedding and we were both excited. But during my pregnancy he would start stupid fights; we don’t have sex enough, I don’t love him.. just aggravating. My husband travels 5-6 days a week for work so it’s hard to have a spontaneous sex life or anything when he’s home and I basically do everything in the house and with the kids by myself. Don’t get me wrong he helps as much as he can when he’s home. But with that being said the mistrust has built up.

He has accused me of flirting with our neighbors because our neighbor would only talk to me (again my husband is barely home). Well our neighbor moved so that issue stopped.

Then after we had our first son together my husband started pushing for me to go back to work. So I found a job making a little extra money in a kids clothing store. I really enjoyed it; we got a discount on kids clothes and I was able to get out of the house and interact with adults, I even got promoted to assistant manager. We decided to have another baby during this time and I got pregnant again. But then the issue arose that the guys across the hall at the shoe store had the hots for us girls at the kids clothing store and that I acted funny when I walked by the store. Again not the case but he made me so uncomfortable and he started arguments with me and had to make a scene when we were together by the shoe store.

We have since done counseling with a therapist and also with our pastor at our church. My husband told our pastor in so many words that he believes I’ve cheated on him (which I have never). Our pastor told my husband that he is needs to stop trying to control me all the time (because he did it with his wife also). Our pastor also pulled out of him that he has abandonment issues because his father was in and out of his life growing up. But with my husbands traveling it’s hard to do any time of counseling that he needs and the accusations have not stopped.

Now when we are home he will question me constantly if I close out of an app on my phone like I’m trying to hide something. Example I was shopping for cars the other day since we’re looking to upgrade to a bigger vehicle and he was sleeping on the couch next me well he woke up and I was flipping back and forth between apps and he wakes up and gets accusational with me like what was that you closed out of? That in turn turned into a fight because I told him I’m sick of feeling like I have to constantly walk on egg shells around him. I’m to the point I don’t know what to do anymore and it’s driving me insane that he constantly does this. I have got to the point I don’t go to certain stores with him because of the accusations and awkwardness (he has accused me of messing around with some guy that works at Walmart), I also won’t get on my phone a lot of time because of the accusations he makes when he’s home.

I’m just at a loss and don’t know what to do anymore.. I’m excited when he comes home but then he starts fights over stupidity that isn’t even necessary. Any suggestions from you lady’s would be greatly appreciated because I’m to point I’m over it.