So I have been very conflicted lately about the decision to have any more children. A little background: my daughters are 1 1/2 and 3 1/2. We are financially stable (but not a ton in savings) I work from home, and SO says it’s totally up to me but I’m past conversations we’ve talked about having around 4 kids. He said he’d be happy with more, and happy with no more.

I’ve always wanted a big family, and I feel I have the time, patience and room in my heart for more. My first two pregnancies were stressful because I wasn’t in a great place financially but I’ve since worked my way up to a very comfortable and flexible job that I love and that is much more family friendly than previously. Because I had to really put in the work to get to where I’m at I didn’t really do any of those exciting keepsake things like maternity pics, newborn pics, or really any family pictures for that matter. My dad had a major heart attack and almost died and I was managing a shop with 25 employees and I feel like I missed all those opportunities.

I guess my main sticking point is that I recognize that there are only so many hours in the day and with my children now being engaged in outside activities and sports I wonder if it’s selfish to bring another child in to the mix just because I want to. I wonder if I’ll be spread too thin with more than two children and the individual attention I’d be able to give. My girls are best friends, and I know that if I had any more they’d be best friends with them too and be able to be supported emotionally by not just me and Daddy but their siblings too. Which is why if I were to have more I’d want them to be close together.

I know you don’t regret having any one of your children, but I’m asking mommies with more than 2, did you feel like you lost any connection with your older children when you had more? Do you ever regret having more?

And for those that stopped at one or two... why did you chose to not have more?

**probably overthinking the whole thing