Toxic family

So today I got together with my husbands family whom I haven't seen in months. I have had family dynamic problems for many years. Anyways I was told that people feel like they have to walk on egg shells around me. I am currently trying to figure out how I can be less sensitive or less offended by minor issues. It's not been easy for me at all but I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice that might help me out here. Obviously I don't want people to feel that way bc it makes me feel bad.