Brother in law in wedding party?

Question

So I’m having my siblings and my fiancé’s 2 brothers in my wedding party. Am I obligated to have ALL my fiancé’s siblings in the wedding party? I get along well with his older 2 brothers,  but I can’t staaand his youngest brother. He’s NEVER even spoken to me the whole 3 years I’ve dated his brother. He’s SO RUDE! He calls my fiancé bitch and idiot in front of me all the time and just talks crap/belittles him every single time I see him (which is often). My fiancé doesn’t really mind if he’s in it or not, he’s leaving it up to me. I know the wedding party should be people who love and support your relationship, which he doesn’t. Help?

Answer

It’s both your wedding so your fiancé needs to decide. It’s not up to you to choose. Talk to your fiancé and tell him he needs to grow up and choose. By putting it on you it makes YOU look bad if you choose no(which is probably what he wants) Explain how you feel and see what he says. You may be causing more harm in the family if he’s left out. He doesn’t have to make a speech. You can even have the best man and MOH standing with you at the altar or no one. So there’s ways to keep him in it without really being in it.

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I always thought the bride picks her bridesmaids and the groom his groomsmen. So I say it’s either he picks or you agree on who’s in the line up. I would just let him be in it but if he starts to be a douche kick him out of it and he can just be a guest.

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Traditionally, all siblings should be in the wedding party. 
How does your fiancé feel? He will be dealing with him for his bachelor party and the wedding day more than you will be. I would just have him for your future in-laws sake and avoid the drama

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There’s no obligation to have anybody, but he will remember that he wasn’t included when everybody else was xx

Brother in law in wedding party?

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