I hate my husband.

So. He has almost always been sort of like this but lately he is completely disinterested in us its driving me crazy. We have 3 kids 9 7 and 4 months old. He didn't want the 3rd but after 6 years of begging he finally said we aren't getting any younger so it wasnt like he was a surprise or anything he was done on purpose. If the baby is crying he wont hold him he bitches if I ask him to hold the baby for a moment saying why dont I just put him down and my arguement back is that why doesnt he just spend time with him. He constantly yells at the other too before even knowing what is going on and says they are brats because I let them get away with anything. Which isn't true at all. He says some really mean things to me too all the time. But hes made sure I have nothing and said I would be homeless if it wasn't for him or still living on my moms couch if it wasn't for him. He says because he works all day he shouldn't have to come home and deal with the kids. And I wish he could see it as just spending a little time with them. Prime example. I was trying to paint the ceiling cause we are doing that. And the baby started fussing. He was on his game which is a vr headset. And I was like can you take a 5 minute break so I can finish this. He didn't respond so I was like okay guess that's a no. So he rips the headphones off and slams them down and says I work all day now I have to raise the fucken kids too! For literally 5 minutes more of painting. He works from 7 to 3 m-f on new cars.