Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Did it work out?.. RLLY LONG

Me & my ex has recently broken up last weekend because he doesn’t know how to prioritize. I’ve made a post on here how he’s so obsessed with cars and meets. He’ll spend 2k on his car just to make his engine louder, add stickers, & make fire come out etc but it’s so hard for him to ever take me out on a nice date or anything. He doesn’t make me feel like I am a priority. Whereas myself I always choose him. He tells me that he doesn’t do certain things out of respect for me but I’m unappreciative so there’s no point. I do the same things for him all the time so tbh it’s nothing to me. It’s nothing because I do it for him without regret or question. It was his friends bday & he invited my ex to the strip club.. he didn’t tell me until we broke up that he didn’t go because of me & he claimed he didn’t care but he was making a big deal out of it. Then he said he was supposed to go to ny for his stepsisters birthday (she’s lesbian) & other girls were going but I wasn’t so I’m like wait wth. You’re gonna be traveling with a bunch of girls idk? And he said I was wrong for feeling a way. There’s a difference in trusting someone & just being flat out dumb. I asked him would he be okay with me traveling with a whole bunch of men he doesn’t know. I have the right to ask questions. He feels he doesn’t owe me a explanation. We barely see each other & the day I broke up with him we were together for like 2 hours then he told me I should go home because he’s going to a car meet with his friends where they just talk to each other abt cars & if I go I’ll be bored so just go home. I was like wtf we work all week so the one time I got off work early you decide to be with your friends. He was acting like his life depended on this meet & all this stuff and he was arguing wit me in the car saying I’m controlling & I’m just like wtf you’re choosing a car meet .. one that’s hosted every 2 days over me when u barely see me. He was yelling and he was mad then when I broke up with him he said he hosted it. That’s all he had to say. Say I must go because I’m hosting I’ll see you tm like wtf is that soo hard ?? At least I would’ve been like ok w.e he has a “important” reason to go even though no one even freaking knows him. He’s acting like he was Beyonce and everyone’s waiting in line to meet him🙄. Anyways he told me he was going to take me out (before we broke up) & he said he was gonna take me somewhere with animals. I do NOT like animals. I’m scared of them. The only animals I do like is doing dogs & it took me 18 years to actually touch one and fall in love. Just because I like 1 dog. The only dog I’ve ever touched doesn’t mean I’ll start liking every damn animal in the world. I was excited only because he FINALLY planned something for me. He never plans shit, makes surprises, never plans to take me out or call me like hey get dressed I’m picking u up. Nothingggg so I was excited but deep down I was thinking wow this guy really doesn’t know me because he’s all into himself & his damn car. We’ve been together for 1 year in a half & although I love him I just don’t think it’s worth it anymore . Ive spoken to a few of my guy friends and they told me just really talk to him one last time and if he doesn’t change just leave for good. He’s been texting me and everytime I tell him stop because I don’t want to think about him or this he continues texting me telling I am fucked up & controlling. If I’m such a bad person why are u still texting me?? He wants to be free now he is but he won’t stop. I never tell him he can’t do anything. I told him I’m not his mom he’s a grown ass man and can do whatever he wants just respect me. Don’t do something you wouldn’t want me doing and don’t put urself in a position to be tempted. (Strip clubs are clearly tempting & so is traveling with a bunch of random females) but hey man that’s his choice. Still never said he couldn’t go. It’s been a journey & he has been my first real bf (he’s taken my virginity). I wanted to wait until marriage but he swept me away🌚 like no other guy could’ve. As much as I want to make it work it’s like he’s so stubborn. He doesn’t everything that he knows wouldn’t be okay if I were to do it. Like really ? Traveling with random men to go party & do whatever in another state is acceptable WITHOUT questions ?? He feels he shouldn’t have to explain anything to me. His communication skills are realllyyy bad. I try to control myself he really just makes me so angry and I want to be at peace with myself again. We’ve been through a rollercoaster it’s been a journey. I don’t just want to go out there and be with someone new. I want him but it’s like he needs to change & I guess I should be more lenient & stop acting like a mom always telling him to prioritize his life because we’re not getting any younger. I’m more of a serious person. I care about my money & graduating college. Figuring out my career and my set path not going to clubs & seeing women shake their ass on my face .. not because I’m boring but I just simply don’t care about that. We did have a lot of good days. We were like best friends & lovers I just wish he was more emotional like me. I wish he showed he cared more & wasn’t afraid of being so vulnerable towards me. Apart of me wants to make it work & another part of me thinks he’ll never be the guy I wanted him to be and wants to move on even though it’ll be hard. I’ve cried my eyes out a few days ago my eyes were so puffy cause I just want it to work but now I’ve just been accepting it even though I feel it here and there in my chest. We’re both still young so I know we have a lot of growing up & maturing to do I just dk if he’ll change to be with me. I mean .. I always feel so misunderstood because of the things I want out of a relationship or because of the things I choose to tolerate although I’ve clearly tolerated alot because this is nothing compared to certain other things he’s done (not cheat). But no one wants to be in a relationship where they don’t feel put first or loves or even thought about.. the simple things matter but I am a person that needs love & affection and reassurance often. I don’t ask him for that but once I did & he was like how many times do u need that. Then his aunt spoke to him and he said ur right sometimes I need that to I was wrong for coming at u like that but you don’t rlly assure me either. I told him we both may want diff things just because I need it doesn’t mean you will. I speak up on what I want .. he doesn’t.