I feel bad.. am I wrong?

Question

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. During that time, he hasn’t maintained a steady job and has started classes but stopped going each time. I always keep my opinions to myself because he gets so defensive but I just couldn’t anymore.. so I sat him down and basically told him that if he doesn’t get his shit together then I have to move on. He said that his feelings are hurt by what I said but he wants to be with me and wants better for us and himself so he’ll get himself together. I didn’t mean to hurt his feelings and now I feel bad. Should I have went about it a different way?

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Sometimes you need to be blunt and straight to the point so someone understands how they are hurting you. Hopefully now he does what he says, if he doesn’t you have to move on.

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Well did you literally say get your shit together or I’m out or did you have a constructive and supportive conversation?

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No .....it sucks to hear that but it’s the truth and at least you didn’t just leave him... you told him what you needed and sometimes feelings get hurt 🤷‍♀️

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Nope, I would have done the same. It’s been four years and he hasn’t shown any progress. Sometimes the truth hurts but we all need to hear it from time to time to get ourselves in check.

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No. Come on it’s been four years . If anything he should feel bad for putting you in that position

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For me i need a strong independent man like my husband. Reading your story it seems like you need the same. Youre his girlfriend not life planner and it doesnt seem like your encouragementis helping him be more steady. He needs to get his life together and you cant let him bring you down. I think its safe to say you being single now will benefit both of yall.

I feel bad.. am I wrong?

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