Am I being selfish?

Question

So me and my husband have a 16 month old daughter who is our world - we could not possibly love her any more. But... my husband has openly said he would love another baby at some point. 
However, my pregnancy was relatively straightforward but postpartum I struggled immensely. I began having debilitating panic attacks, chronic depression and anxiety to the point it was beyond bearable anymore. I have been through therapy and have been on antidepressants for years, but I am now in a much better place. I know this was all triggered by birth and my hormones. I’m so glad I have my daughter but I panic daily that the same thing will happen again if I got pregnant. 
Am I being selfish in saying I cannot have another child due to my feelings last time? My husband understands completely and knows it is essentially my decision. 💕

Answer

There’s nothing selfish about knowing your limits and setting boundaries that protect you. That said, if YOU wanted another baby, I wouldn’t let your fear stop you; even if all of that were to happen again, you’ve been through it once and I’m sure have learned a great baby coping mechanisms and tools to help you. 
Not selfish at all if you feel you can’t or don’t want to, even if your husband wants another baby. If you decide in time you want one enough to overcome that anxiety, you might have a different experience (or not, but you’d find the same strength that got you through last time).  Ultimately it’s your call mama, and there are no wrong answers.

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I had the same thing with my first. It was awful. But, I now have four kids and I only got post partum depression and anxiety with my first. 
You are at an increased risk with subsequent pregnancies, but for me it didn't happen again. You're not selfish for not wanting to go through all that turmoil again, though. Don't ever think that. I wouldn't wish depression or anxiety on my worst enemy.

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I feel like I could have written this! But I that wanting more kids outweighs what I went through so I will definitely try again. Hoping now that I know what to expect I won’t be in for such a shock. With that being said if you know 100% you don’t want to take the chance of going through that again then don’t! The baby you have now deserves a happy healthy mama!

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Each pregnancy is different. I highly suggest talking with your doctor, he or she might say the same thing. I don’t think it is selfish, you need to do what is best for you. But if you are feeling completely different from your first pregnancy, I would keep your little one 💕 good luck!

Am I being selfish?

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