advice please ❤️❤️ i need it right now

i’m 18, and a FTM currently living with my parents while my bf and i save up and are completely financially stable to get our own place and provide for a baby too. My mom keeps telling me how important it is not to stress stuff but it seems like she’s the one who stresses me out the most!! she will yell at me for getting mad or upset at something but then turn around and argue me and just do things she KNOWS stresses me out to the point of a breakdown. I’m in a stage in my pregnancy now where i just wish i had my own place far away so when i have my baby no one can see her or anything. My bf and i already have a VERY small, select list of who will be allowed to come visit at the hospital, very close family.. we each are only allowing a few family members to come visit us in the hospital it’s just what we want and are comfortable with, i see no problem with it but my mom is like “you can’t deny people from coming to visit that’s rude” and telling me whoever buys the baby a gift should be allowed to come visit and to me that’s a no. of course i’m thankful for ANYONE who is willing to buy my daughter something but that’s not a free pass just to come to the hospital in my opinion. My bf and i have decided for at least the first few months until my baby has her shots we aren’t going to be taking her to any family events or anywhere to visit because we don’t want to risk her getting sick being around tons of people and like i said before just something we aren’t comfortable with. Now my mom is starting on me trying to tell me who will see my baby and i feel like she’s not at all respecting my wishes. i told her there will be some people i will not allow around my child because i have to do what’s best for her, i’m not saying these people will NEVER see her just for the time being until they can prove themselves and prove they will be stable in her life i don’t want them around her and she’s telling me that i’m wrong and these people WILL see my daughter and i’m just upsetting her and my dad by being this way and “i’m making them look bad” & “she raised me to be better than this” i just want some advice... should i be allowed to choose who is around my daughter?! i don’t want people to be in her life inconsistently like they were mine and i feel they don’t deserve to see her from the way they have treated and disrespected me.. my mom almost thinks that since i’m still living at home she has 100% control of my child and can make decisions i think i should be able to make as her mother.

sorry for the long post just wanted to rant and explain my feelings in hopes someone else has went though something similar.