Dealing with deadbeats

Long story short my sons dad has seen my son maybe 30 times in 8 years.

CSS garnished his wages but he stopped putting money in his bank account so he doesn’t pay his support.

He comes around every so often trying to be in my sons life but he’s never consistent. He disappears frequently and never calls to check in on my son or see if my son needs anything. I always leave the door open because morally that’s what’s right. But I’m so fed up with all of this.

He isn’t broke. He works in Hollywood with big name celebrities. He just chooses to put his career and that lifestyle before parenting. I’ve taken care of my son by myself since day one. When he contacts me he tells me how depressed and how sad he is and wishes he has a relationship with our son. However, still never calls, texts or checks up. I always give him the benefit of the doubt but 8 years in, it’s kind of all sounding like BS to me.

He barely got his own car this year. Of course he’s get this top of the line car but can’t even but my son a pair of shoes. It’s just ridiculous.

How would you moms handle this?

I don’t want to feel the guilt for shutting him out. But I’d rather him take me to court and get whatever he deserves. I hate feeling guilty but my son doesn’t even know him nor does he care. Later on he will.. I know It’s such an important relationship but the damage he’s done and continues to do is unfair