Break up ?

So my boyfriend signed into my Instagram while I was having a girls Sunday , lunch and some drinks . He knew about it , sent photos of my girlfriend , knew location and everything .

Phone died for like 3 hours , finally turns on and he’s acting weird . So I get home and he calls me , “we need to talk”

He tells me he went into my ig (he’s had my info forever because he’s constantly “joking” that I have another bf for 3 years while dating ) and went through my messages , not that I had anything to hide . But he went through the message w/ my cousin who I told about his plans to propose and looking for wedding rings and how I wasn’t ready and so on .

Anyways , long story short Boyfriend calls me Sunday about marriage and how I’m not communicating things with him and he’s just trying . Anyways , we’ve broken up before for like 3 months because again insecurity , lack of communication , me begging for more time , my constant alert of his attitude and ignoring me .

And now since Sunday , he’s doing the whole “I’m gonna try more , I’m gonna be better , I’m gonna make this work, and I’m so deep in love with you” he’s basically doing the flower buying , and making plans and wanting to plan a trip on his own this time .

Anyways I just took a step back and realized maybe this really isn’t working anymore . We’re both young , 24 and 23 . Some people have things figured out but we def don’t . I go to therapy frequently just to cope and help figure things out . We both have toxic family backgrounds that I personally feel that needs a lot more work on . Anyways I feel like breaking up , yet I overthink everything and feel like I’d be too harsh for breaking up . It’s cliche to be like “I really love you but this isn’t working out for me” so any advice on how to just rip the bandaid off ?

- a very anxious girl 😅