Sex after birth

I have only just given birth to our beautiful baby boy 7 weeks ago.

I had a rough labour and because i have a few medical issues so my recovery is slow and painful (even more than it normally should be) BUT sometimes I do feel the urge to try and have sex so does hubby but we’re both so scared. He hates seeing me in pain and I’m petrified of adding to the pain. I also feel so disgusting in my body and ive gained weight since birth because of lack of sleep and struggle to eat well. (can’t wait to work on my body soon)

I had a forcep assisted vaginal birth with rotation and episiotomy. The labour was bad and was going to have C section because of LOs heart rate issue.

What I wanna know is, if anyone was in a similar situation, how did you feel when you first had sex after birth? And when did you do it? What helped? Any info would be good

P.S I know everyone’s different but it’s good to know other experiences maybe it’ll help me in some way to prepare.