What would you do?

Can you be in a marrage where your not sexually satisfied and your husband shows no sign of being interested in satisfying you.

I have been married for over a year, been with my husband for over 5 years. He has never really been a sexual person.. a little selfish in bed and can never take any criticism or direction. He barely ever wants to have sex. And he says his sex drive is low because I never orgasim.. but this gives him no drive to try harder or to think about things he can do. I can't remember the last time he went down on me. He complains that i watch porn. I always try to give him a blow job because i enjoy doing it. And if he isnt accepting it and letting me do it, his complaining about something.

Ive told him i want couples counselling, sex therapy, that i want him to care more about my sexual desires.. but he doesn't. He tells me that a marrage doesnt revolve around sex but i think its important... and he doesn't. Im scared. Ive been with him since i was 17 and now i feel like there is something between us. Im sexually unsatified, feel unattractive, feel unwanted... and i dont know if im selfish for feeling this way.. and what i can do to change his attitude. I cant force him to be interested in pleasuring me. I just dont know how to natvigate this.