Hubby scared to get his hopes up

He’s spoken on sad the miscarriage has made him, but I didn’t think it would lead to so much trepidation when it came to this time around. I’m 2/3 days from AF but my hubby doesn’t want to test until I’m 10 days past af. I think that it’s a little ridiculous and we should know sooner than that. He doesn’t want to get excited and something happens. We only knew I was pregnant the last time for 2 days before I started to miscarry. What can we do to help some of this fear and anxiety. I don’t want to start testing without him 🥺 I’m deff showing symptoms so we have a feeling. He thinks I should just take care of myself as if I were since I’m showing symptoms.