In-laws PLEASE help

Please help, i need opinions. He’s calling me insane and it’s messing with my head. Pm

This is how everything started. *Note I have narcolepsy, if you don’t know narcolepsy can make you fall asleep uncontrollably at random times in random places, it feels like you haven’t slept in days and your body feels drunk, or at least that’s how I describe it (this comes into play). SO ONTO WHATS HAPPENED, me and my husband (at the time boyfriend) have been together for 4 months officially when this occurred, for reference, I’m 18 (I’ve been grown since I was 15 sadly due to trauma) he’s 25, she’s 27 i think. So it’s Easter Day, we head out to his older sisters boyfriends parents house, my husbands mom was also there (boyfriend at the time remember) and I’ve already met her a few times I stayed with her when I first met him in person (we were a long distance relationship for a long time and Flew out to visit for 3 days). But this is the first time meeting his sister. So I get there and I try to have a bit of small talk with his sister about her new tattoo she just got, saying it’s cute ect, then I go out to sit outside until dinners ready, talk to his mom, socialize ect. I come in to eat and I feel a sleep episode coming on (I CANNOT stop them) while shes sitting across from me and my husband, I’m dead falling asleep and he explains that I have narcolepsy and stuff and what it is. She keeps trying to talk to me and I’m saying politely “I can’t talk right now, I’m almost asleep and I can’t make real sentences”, she says “come on, wake up I’m tired too but I’m at least making an effort” in a rude tone of voice, after he nagging me for what seems like 15 minutes I finally snap and say In a NORMAL way “you clearly don’t understand narcolepsy do you?” After her being insulting and rude over not being able to speak to her. So she says something like “wow you’re rude and disgusting” something along the lines of that. And I’m like pissed so I walk out to the truck and try to sleep since im not trying to fight with anyone.

He and his mom comes out after like 5 mins and talk to me saying how I’m rude as fuck basically but I agree with them to not start anything, later that day/ a few days after. His sister is texting him insulting me, saying how I’m not good enough for him, saying he should leave me, and them BOTH saying “yeah she’s socially retarded” when I didn’t insult her at all at the time, to him or anyone else.

Flash forward to the beginning of June a few months later, I’m at his little sisters and brothers dance recital because I wanna be in their lives, his sisters there and we see her during break while going out to the truck and we’re all talking and I’m trying to start small talk with her ect, trying to be nice and make friends. While she ignores me and barely acknowledges me there, WHILE IM TRYING TO BE NICE AND MEET HER WHILE IM AWAKE. Well the recital starts again and me and my husband sit down alone again (at this point we’re still bf/gf but we get married 2 weeks after this) at the end of the play we all meet up and say what a good job they did, get photos of all of us, ect. I offer to take photos of them all together since I’m a photographer and everything trying to be nice. (Her boyfriend also ignored me btw), then we went home. That’s the last time I’ve seen her.

Flash forward to me and my now husband arguing, he makes all these posts lying saying how basically I was cheating, using him,how I beat animals close to death(which I fucking DONT), saying that I’m posting lies about him(I posted nothing), ect. Just bad things in general about me. He told his family things that he said he’d never tell anyone, he said I was a prostitute when I was 16, and Alotta other things that I’ve never done. Saying that I’m ABUSING HIM. Yeah, as if. Also I’d like to note, I’ve been nothing but nice to this family, I’ve sat with his father and talked for hours, bought his little brother and sister things and made sure they were safe, and help his mom do somethings and I was always SO nice to her. So they’re all saying how I’m a disgusting c*nt, his father said “I don’t want an insane b*tch having my grandchildren” something to that effect, his sister saying disgusting things to me saying how I deserve to die, she “knew I was like this the entire time” and MANY other insults towards me that are fabricated. We make up, he tells them everything he said was lies (since it was obv) and they’re still insulting me, and he says I’m in the wrong for being mad about that.

Flash forward, me and my husband have to give up our dog and get him put down and we’re both broken over it. His mom calls in the middle and complains about how the family is ruined and how she’s coming up with food for us (at this point I’m on good terms with her, she never insulted me to my knowledge). He tells her not to, since we just gave up our dog, and he needs to go to work in a few hours. She says okay and we assume she’s not coming up, an hour or so lately she texts “I’m 20 mins away” and I’m obviously not gonna be rude and not let her come over after a 2 hour drive so it left us with no choice. She comes over, brings canned food and some papers my husband needed. A little while later we were talking, she’s implying that I need to let everything go and be nice and apologize. When I’ve done nothing wrong? I said I’m not apologizing to anyone, since I didn’t do anything, I’m not the one insulting anyone here. Talk goes on, I’m super pissed at this point since they’re saying I’m overreacting. I say something like “his sister is a bitch, she chose to hate me before I met her, that’s not my problem, it’s hers. I’m not going to be apart of her life.” His mom gets bitchy, saying how I need to get a job (which I’ve been trying for months and I still am putting money into the house, it’s not like I’m living off my husband.) saying how I need to get my life together ect. We get into an argument, I ask her to leave or stop this conversation because I’m not changing my opinion, since she’s basically yelling at me at this point. So she starts insulting me, saying how I’m a whore, how I’m insane for being a past cutter, mentioning how disgusting my family is (they haven’t even been involved in this) and saying how ugly and ruined I am from my scars. And obviously I’m NOT going to settle for that in MY house, I say something of the lines of “get the fuck outta my house before I call the police Bitch” ect. At this point she’s insulted me, and stuff. Then she says “shut the fuck up little girl before I knock your teeth out”. Note, a 60 YEAR OLD SAID THIS TO A TEENAGER, because she didn’t agree with me. So I obviously am not one to back down if threatened, that’s how I’m raised. I stand up and say something like “try me Bitch, I’ll put you in jail” my husband gets up grabs me and holds me tightly leaving bad bruises on me. Notice the fact that SHE initiated violence and he immediately goes to defend her while she’s in the wrong. He holds me painfully not letting me go, when I have no plan to even touch her since I’m not getting a charge over something so stupid. She’s screaming in my house calling me a whore, b*tch, c*nt, mentally insane for “threatening her” and I loose it. I spit at her to get her out of my face since I cant physically fucking move. At this point I’ve told her to leave 20+ times, she refuses, I say I’m calling the police after my husband releases me and he takes my phone. She gets in his face, screaming as loud as she possibly can, saying “it’s me or her” making a scene crying and screaming while my front doors open. Mind you, I’m in an apartment complex also, risking getting kicked out and at this point we’d be homeless. But she doesn’t care. She’s saying how I’m ruining his life, how I’m ruining his family, how I’m gonna end up using him for money ect. Let’s point out something. I have more money than him, he had almost none. I had and have nothing to use him for, and why would I marry him if I was using him? Finally she leaves after another 20+ minutes of screaming on my doorstep, IN THE MIDDLE OF THE CITY with people most likely staring at her. I go in the bathroom and text my family to buy me a flight home since I’m done with this. My husband comes in and says how everything is my fault, how I’m not able to have opinions around his family, how I basically keep my head down when with them. We fight, he goes to work, he comes home we talk and “make up” for awhile.

Months later, In August now, his dad wants to be buddy buddy with me and apologize ect. ( from when I met him I haven’t liked him or agreed with him, he grows and smokes weed around young kids, told me to lie on my job/ apt applications and got annoyed when I wouldn’t, and apparently lied on applications he filled out for apartments *without my knowledge at the time* ect. He’s kinda like a scammer almost, he’s just a rude person honestly, but I’ve been nothing but nice, keep my head down and agree with him) as my husband says “don’t start shit” so I had to always keep my opinions to myself. I a week later and kinda and civil with is dad while he’s at our apartment. We’re making small talk and I’m forced almost to make up with him, and I did. We talk he goes home blah blah good day

So NOW his mom recently said how she wants us al together how I’m “part of the family” basically being fake and kind while talking about me. For the past 2-3 weeks she’s been wanting to come up and see us. I tell my husband I’m not having a person like her in my life, that she’s violent, rude, and insulting, and I refuse to have that negativity in my life. My husband now says this is all my fault, how all the fights were MY fault, how me not being apart of his family is my fault. After they’ve insulted me, threatened, spread lies, and intimidated me. I refuse to have her in my life, I refuse to see her again, he says it’s me being childish and that I need to “grow the fuck up and stop being a c*nt” so that’s where this ends

Am I in the wrong for not wanting his mother, or sister in my life? Or am I completely insane like they’re saying I am. Please take account this is just everything I’ve seen, there’s most likely a lot more said about me. He doesn’t defend me against his sisters, dads, or moms insults at all. He basically ignores them, but he says time and time again that he’s telling them to stop, which I’ve NEVER seen. This mainly started because of his sister spreading lies because she’s jealous I’m getting the attention from him not her.

What the fuck do I do?

Thank you for any advice in advance I need it, this is one of many warning signs my husband has shown.