Is this rude or not?

So I got asked to be a bridesmaids for a wedding with a girl I went to high school with. We were close till the last 2 years of high school then we didn't talk much. A year or two after high school she contacted me asking me to be one of her bridesmaids for her wedding. After days of talking she brought up me being a photographer for her wedding for free. I told her that would be difficult and I could help her find a photographer but expect to pay $1200 and up. She said she couldn't afford that and to see if I could find her someone cheaper, I found a lady who said she would do it for $50 bucks (you get what you pay for), I told her and she said no that's too expensive for her still. I was like I'm sorry, but I don't know what to tell you. Then a few hours later she texted me saying her card won't work on this website so she can't get my dress but she was able to buy everyone else's dress. (To add I live states away so going home was going to cost a lot)

I then told her I can't afford to buy the dress due to the amount of money I'm spending to travel home and at that point I know she was using me. She was like that sucks we'll figure something out, and that's the last I heard from her. So about 2 weeks later I travel home (I was going to visit family anyways) and get a text saying I'm no longer invited to the bachelorette party but I'm still invited to the wedding. Which I wasn't planning on going to the party nor was I given any details of the party other than the day of it but at that point I thought it so rude.

So do you think it's rude to text someone that? Or no because you aren't a bridesmaid anymore?

*To add my husband and I ran into them the night of the party cause he took me out on a date, it was super awkward. 🙊😂

But I'm seriously curious what people's opinions are on this. 🤔