I did something awful, and it backfired....

I was playing with my fiance's phone while mine was charging. Saw a messenger notification and curiosity got the best of me. It was just a friend wishing him a happy birthday.(I trust him 100%, so I wasn't hoping to "catch him" or anything like that) But then I saw a thread of messages from his ex, and couldn't help myself... So I started scrolling up. 😔😔

Backstory: when we first started, we were just hooking up, but I was catching feelings almost immediately. After a couple of months, he got distant so I just put my heart in my pocket and tried to move on (at least I didn't let him know I was suffering, we worked together). During that time, a mutual friend (coworker) told me that he had confided in her that he got his gf pregnant. My heart shattered, but I moved on.

Fast forward, the stars aligned and we are now together, engaged and I'm the happiest I've been in a long time.

I had asked him a while ago about the alleged pregnancy, and he totally denied it.

Present: looking through the messages, I confirmed that she did in fact tell him she was pregnant. They were excited about it and planning a life together. She must have lost the baby, because after a month or so, the messages stopped. (I guess they broke up during that time)

I did this to myself, I know, but now I'm angry because he knows how much I hate the lies, and he lied to my face about this. This is not the first time. I asked him about other situations before, and later confirmed that he had lied to me.

I don't know if I even want to marry him anymore, and spend the rest of my life with someone who will lie to me, over and over, about stuff that happened before we were even serious. I understand you have a past, I won't hold it against you. Just tell me the fucking truth!!!

Am I overreacting?

I know I shouldn't have snooped. I've never done it before and never will do it again. Not worth the headache 😩.

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UPDATE: I confronted him and he said he didn't admit to it because there really wasn't a pregnancy. She made it all up.

Towards the end of the texts he starts pushing her, asking about the baby, the appointments, pictures of the ultrasound and she just changes the subject or plays the victim.

He told me he tried to go to the appointments with her, but she always found an excuse (I did see some of that in the messages)

At one point she told him she was in so much pain that she was going to the E.R. texted him one hour later saying she was discharged with no diagnosis and "they didn't even do an ultrasound!". And later that night she was going out with her friends because she couldnt miss so and so's birthday.

First off, who in the world gets discharged from the ER in less than 3-4 hours?? That has BS written all over it.

He said he was ashamed to admit he was played a fool, that's why he didn't admit the (fake) pregnancy when I asked him.

I want to believe him. He is perfect in every way, besides me catching him in a couple of lies that dont even pertain to us (things that happened in his past). What scares me is thinking he would lie if it comes to something that really matters. 😔😔