It sounds like you need to have what my Meema calls the "Where the hell are we going?"Talk.Sit down grab a beverage and talk about your personal, financial, educational, familial, and relationship goals.Discuss all of these things and start to create a life plan. Talk about when/if you'll get married. When you'll buy a house, life insurance policies etc. How many child you want and how closely you want them spaced.From there, if the two of you are both ready to TTC, go see your OB for a preconception check up. Create a fertility action plan, like how long it'll be before you head in for more testing and or fertility medication.Abortions do NOT, give you cancer, affect your fertility*, make you a bad person or mom or make you a hypocrite for having one then trying at a later more stable point in time.*If it was preformed properly by a highly skilled medical professional. Which from the sounds of it, it was!Good luck! I'll include you in my prayers to Frigga, the Norse Goddess of fertility, home, hearth and relationships!