I’m afraid my boyfriend doesn’t love me

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for four years, almost five, and we have been living together for three years. We are both graduated from college, both have very good jobs and are financially stable.

In the beginning of our relationship I knew that he wasn’t exactly the lovey dovey romantic type and it never really bothered me until now, I’ve also really been bothered but the fact that we haven’t gotten engaged. We have been talking about it for a few years now and he always says it’s going to happen but I just feel like he has no plans for it any time soon, he always says it’s scary to think about proposing and all of that.

Well, I moved 1500 miles away to another state away from my family with him when he was offered a new job without any commitment or anything so I personally think that’s just as scary for me if not more. Now my family won’t stop pestering me about when we will get married. I’m worried that maybe he is just too comfortable in the relationship, and he doesn’t do things like get me flowers or plan romantic dates or say mushy things. I’ve always been okay with that because he said it’s just “not him” but he knows I like those things so why can’t he once in a while? We went to a friends wedding in September and I watched the way the groom looked at the bride and couldn’t help but worry that my boyfriend doesn’t look at me like that. If he really wanted to marry me and be with me forever than what is stopping him?

Anyway.. I’m just not really sure who to talk to or what to do. He says he loves me but I’m just not sure anymore, and we are saving up for a house and I don’t know if I can buy one with him without a commitment.