UPDATE. My MIL is ruining my wedding!! She is so controlling. 😫😩

My partner and I are getting married in February. I will be 34 weeks pregnant.

We were going to get married at his parents farm and we asked them if that was okay and they said ‘yes’. My partner and I are paying for the wedding and didn’t expect anything from his parents except the use of a paddock.

My MIL has since told me to not have children at the wedding because it won’t be safe even though it is a completely safe area. She told me alcohol at a wedding is not a good environment to have children either. My partner and I have let her know we will be having children at the wedding and if she didn’t feel comfortable we can have the wedding elsewhere. She said it was fine so I have forked our thousands of dollars for marquee hire, tables and chairs, generators, luxury port-a-loos etc. Today she sent me an email saying she no longer wants us to have the wedding at the farm unless we do everything her way, no kids, her chosen vendors, her approved guest list etc.

It meant so much to my partner to get married at the farm that he has grown up in and has been in his family for 5 generations. He is actually in the process of buying out half of the farm, and will purchase the rest in 2 years when his parents are ready for retirement.

But I can’t let this woman dictate the decisions about my wedding which I am paying for.

I’m so angry, hurt, heartbroken and completely overwhelmed. Being pregnant and engaged is supposed to be so happy but this woman just keeps making me miserable with her trying to call the shots with my wedding and telling me how I should raise my baby.

I’m so so so upset.

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So this is the response my partner is sending to my MIL. He will be following up with a phone call after work.