Handing out money but asking ME to work😤

I'm going anonymous on this one in case there are any family members on here, which I highly doubt but don't wanna take that risk lol.

You and your husband have been struggling financially recently. Phone cut off, bills overdue, etc. He asks you to go back to work to help financially. Then, you find out he's been sending family members money.

Would you find it fair that he's asking you to help out financially yet he's financially helping others and leaving your family (one you, your husband, your baby/kids) short money and struggling???

I noticed his brother has been calling a lot recently and I know it's usually for money so I checked his messenger between him and his brother. Well...I found messages from his brother asking for money every few days/weeks. They talk mostly on the phone about this stuff so I didn't see many amounts but I did see one for $300!!!

If this is what I'm gonna be working for, I'm not doing it. I just wanna know how you would go about bringing this up. Also, if you think one should be firm about not working if it's gonna be to, basically, support others financially.

I wanted to go back to work since the end of summer (had my baby in beginning of summer) but he said we didn't need it. Working is not the issue. The issue is THIS: I'm not gonna be contributing to support a grown man.