HELP/ADVICE please

Its long, so get ready..

So little background, my high school sweetheart( we'll call him Bob) and I didnt work out, no reason except we wanted to experience life on our own out of high school. Ended on good terms. I got married and divorced, ( mine ended in 2013) he got married ( his ended this summer) anyways he moved back home, we had kept in touch over the years, and started fooling around this summer, because we both had not been with anyone in over a year. But I started catching feeling and knew he didn't want anything serious, we both agreed to stop the physical stuff and just remain good friends.. Cool well about 2 months ago he intoduced me to one of his friends, ( We'll call friend Bruce)we hit it off started talking, then hanging out and now are dating. So we're exclusive.. Here's the kicker, Bruce tells me tonight he has commitment issues and doesnt know exactly what hes looking for, but wants to exclusive with me, but doesn't want to meet my boys. ( which is fine, I didnt ask him to and I wouldn't have unless we got to that point). Well freaking Bob hits me up tonight and tells me, he has had feeling for me for a long time, was scared of getting hurt because of what his ex wife did, and how he doesnt want to see me with someone else, but if thats what I wanted would still be a good friend and supportive. Now I dont know what to do.. Bruce and I have been officially dating ( whatever the hell that means) lol for a week, and Bob and i have been friends for 15 years, we come from a super small town to where I know his whole family he knows mine, hes known both my boys since they were born...and they think he's the coolest guy, but Bruce... He's sweet and funny, just super reserved and part of me feels like its just a waste of time, I'm 30.. Like I need to know what the hell.. I told him my goal when dating it to potentially find someone to grow old with and treat my boys and i well.. And he didnt say much just right... I'm freaking confused, never been in this position before... Any advice would be great.. And yes bruce knows about Bob and I previously hooking up, he knows we are still friends and I talk to Bob's mom almost every day, and hes cool with it, because he knows we are just friends. Sorry this is all over the place. Thanks.