My dear husband

What is the point of you asking me a question about why I've done something or acted a certain way with you, if you're not going to bother to listen?

Why are we talking about feelings when you feel yours are the only ones that matter?

Can't you understand I don't want to just "get in my car and live my life" when I want to live it with you.

Why did you bother marrying me if you don't feel the same, if you'd rather I step outside our marriage to save you the trouble of understanding?

I'm sorry I caught you on a bad day, but don't lie and say I never ask how your day was when my life revolves around you. Don't act like I'm just a burden to you when you don't have to lift a finger. Don't pretend you never get to do what you want when you spend hours playing your PlayStation while I take care of other things or just watch TV by myself.

YOU caused the fight last night. Not me.

Don't blame me for your coworkers not inviting you out anymore- maybe if you bothered to be home early occasionally to help me I wouldn't mind if you stayed late on a Friday here and there. Maybe if I wasn't subjected to years of you ditching me at home when you had your drinking problem, WHICH I STUCK AROUND FOR AND HELPED YOU OUT OF, I wouldn't have long last feelings of being put last again everything time you wanted to go out without me.

You say I must give you a break, what about the break I need? Why can't you understand this? Is it not important for me to have a break because I'm at home? So it's OK for me to do everything, all the time, just because I'm not out the house? I work as well. I have an actual job as well. Yes it might be from home but it's no different to an office job. I have clients to deal with. I have difficulties and problems I need to deal with. They aren't any less valid because I'm dealing with them at home.

The worst thing is when I explain all this to you, all you can say is go find someone else then.

So you expect me to listen to your problems, validate you, understand your point of view and try be better but you don't grant me the same courtesy.

Everything in this relationship is about you. I must be better. I mustn't expect you home. I must ask about your day (which I already do), and I must just give you your break. The minute I expect the same from you? "Go find someone who will put you first then".

You've changed over the past three years. And not for the better.

Thank you for wasting my time.