Advice....In laws on Christmas.......

Sorry in advance. This will be a long post 😂

A little backstory:

So we live almost 5 hours away from my in laws. My parents, one sibling, and only living grandparents live in the same town as us. My other brother and his family (sister in law & 3 nieces) live 18 hours away. My husband and I both work for my parents’ business and are very involved in running the place. We are also under contract to be buying our first house. We were supposed to close last week but the title company wanted to wait until after the new year, which is fine with us. We have 5 dogs and live on a ranch with livestock and horses (it’s not easy to be able to take a trip because of the animals). Our anniversary is New Year’s Day. And we have been TTC for almost a year.

My brother & his fam have never been here during Christmas (bc life, ya know) since we have lived in this state for almost 6 years, it’s usually after the new year, IF they even get to come.

We just found out last week that they are all coming for a week, so they’ll be here for Christmas!!! They were trying to surprise us, but they couldn’t keep it in anymore! How exciting, right?!

Soooo, we had not really planned anything for Christmas events yet because up until last week we had planned on moving while we were off work during the week of Christmas. But, that got changed and we found out they were coming. Funny how it all works out 😂. Fast forward to the past couple of days. In laws start asking hubs what we’re doing for Christmas. He had told them since before thanksgiving (which we didn’t go up there then either because we left for a short vacation on Black Friday) that we probably would not be traveling because we would be moving. Which they’ve done nothing but make negative comments and make us feel bad about us buying a home. Anyways, he tells them that we don’t know when we will come because my family is coming for the first time and we just found out. And not on New Years because that is our anniversary. Not to mention we go back to work that week, just have New Year’s eve and day off. That weekend we have a convention the business is a main dealer at.

Long story short, we have a lot going on. Between the house ordeal, work stuff, family coming in, and the stress of TTC.

They are beyond upset because it’s Christmas and we’re not coming. And can’t come the next week. Which, really, I get. But they were saying my family is more important and things of that nature. Which is not true. But I haven’t had Christmas with my family since we’ve lived here. We go to their house EVERY year that we have been together (this is our 5th Christmas together).

They’ve been to our house 1 time and that was just this summer, and the weekend they came to visit they stayed 2 hours south of us so we still had to drive to spend time with them. Hubs suggested they come here for a couple days. They don’t want to come here because we have dogs. And really we don’t have the room, so they’d have to stay somewhere. (One reason why we’re buying a house, so that we have room for guests) So he told them it wouldn’t be until the second weekend in January we could come up. They say what’s the point in that, it’s not Christmas then. I get it, I really really do.

They’re doing nothing but sh***ing on us now and making us feel bad.

But what the hell are we supposed to do?!