Are men programmed this way or just mine?
Hi ladies! I’m currently 8 months pregnant with di/di twins. So you can imagine how exhausted and huge I am at this point. My husband and I also have a 2.5 year daughter who is coming into a huge attitude phase. Lol
I work full time (standard 40 hours a week) and do daycare drop off and pick up every single day for our daughter. Before getting along far into my pregnancy, I took care of all the household chores, took off when our daughter is sick, made appointments for all of us, was responsible for everyone’s schedule, taxes, etc. I pretty much ran the household which I thought was normal.
My husband works a very physically demanding job in the industrial electric motor industry. He works mandatory overtime and ends up working between 50-75 hours a week. He’s excellent at his job and really enjoys it. He’s worked there for 5 years and has risen really high in the company already. He travels out of town every few months for work as well.
When my husband gets home every night he is exhausted and has always eaten dinner and plopped down in his arm chair in front of the tv where he stays until bedtime.
With this pregnancy being so difficult I have told him over and over I need his help around the house. I told him for these last few weeks he needs to run the household as I run out of energy very quickly.
So now that my husband is doing a lot of the housework i am realizing I may have been doing too much over the course of our marriage (12 years). He doesn’t see a mess and just automatically clean it up. He leaves wet laundry in the washer for too long and it get mildew so it needs to be rewashed. He fights with our daughter about bath time and bedtime and is overall in a very foul mood nowadays. He doesn’t put his dirty dishes in the sink, or his clothes in the hamper. He lets trash and filth pile up until I gently remind him that “tomorrow is trash day” or “please move the clothes from the washer to the dryer”, or “please bring the clothes upstairs so I can fold them and put them away”. He doesn’t just see something needs to be done and do it.
It’s driving me nuts because I hate filth and dirty house but I can’t push him too much or he won’t do anything. I literally had to pull a chair into the kitchen and sit at the sink to wash the dishes because they have been sitting there for 3 days. Fruit flies are flying around and he doesn’t think anything of it.
How can he be so good at his job and motivated and a good leader but not give a shit about his own home? I can easily change hats from work to mother to wife, etc. no problem. But for him it’s a whole new world.
Hopefully I give birth soon and get back to my routine because I’m sick of living like this.
Does this happen to any of you other ladies?
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