Baby Shower

So me and the baby's father are not together, so I'm assuming we will be having split showers? I have a large family, but idk if all of them will come. My moms mother wants to have one just that side of the family, which would only be like 7 people. I want to have one with my dads side of the family, and my friends. My family all live in Lebanon, and my friends all live in cookeville. They are an hour drive apart. Then the baby's fathers mother wants to Have one from their side of the family.  What did any of you single moms do? Or does anyone have any advice? Should I have 3 separate showers, invite my friends to my dads house in Lebanon? I don't know what the best plan of action will be. I need shower advice in general. So overwhelmed, please help!