Has your man ever asked you to use your dildo on him?

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Recently my man and I were getting intimate he pulled out my toy, used it on me for a bit then asked me to use it on him, I froze and he did it himself. I didn’t know what to do or say so I left the room. When I came back he was angry and said he will never open up to me again and that I made him feel gross. I didn’t mean to I just have a lot of mixed thoughts and feelings and questions. He won’t even talk to me about it now and I’m scared it has ruined our relationship. We’ve been together almost a year exactly. We live together and my children call him dad. What do I do?

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No, but I would if he wanted to. Men have prostrates for a reason

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My boyfriend enjoys anal play. Nothing wrong with it, it feels good for men. Definitely doesn’t make him gay. 
However, if it is something you are not into and can’t see yourself getting into than you can’t change that and you need to talk to him and tell him that you aren’t judging him but it’s not something you can’t get into. He probably feels insecure. 
If you are open to experimenting it’s can be really hot. I enjoy it a lot, and so does my boyfriend.

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I don’t think you did anything wrong.. you were caught off guard. If you’re open to doing it, then you should tell him you are, but that it’s something you’ll need to get used to and you’ll need some time. If it’s something you’re not open to, then you should tell him that it’s something you’re not comfortable with, but you don’t judge him for wanting it or doing it on his own. 
Communication is super important at this point. Pushing it under the rug and ignoring it will likely make things worse.

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My man has a bigger collection of toys than I do, and it is really fun and a huge turn on when I can make my man cum whether that be with the use of a toy or not

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It’s not gross or weird. Men have crazy amounts of pleasure points in the butt. Try not to judge. It’s nice he felt comfortable enough to share a very taboo desire with you. It shows a lot of trust. 
Talk to him and let him know you don’t think less of him as he is clearly feeling ashamed of something that doesn’t need to be shameful but society makes it feel like it is. 
Show support and love.

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Maybe he’s just really insecure about it or worried that you’ll judge him?

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Haven’t been in this situation however I can understand how you both feel. Definitely have a conversation with him just tell him you were caught off guard and didn’t know how to respond it’s normal and ok. It’s definitely great that he’s opened up to you about something new that he enjoys but you have to let him know if it’s something you are ok with doing or if it’s just something you arent  comfortable with but also letting him know you don’t judge him if it’s something he does in privacy. Either way communication is key right now sweeping it under the rug and acting like it never happened won’t help.

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It’s great that he is asking for what he likes. I think it is fair that you were thrown off guard, but I think it would also be good to talk to him about your wants and provide a safe space for him to talk about his.

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He hasn’t but I’d definitely help him work up to it. He can barely handle the tip of my pinky in his ass (when he asks, of course). I’d definitely help him work his way up, just as he’s been helping me work up to anal sex.

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Some men enjoy anal play, my hubby is one. We don’t do it all the time but at first I was taken back but I love that he shared that with me. A lot of couples struggle to communicate what they like in bed so take it as a compliment he shared that with you.

Has your man ever asked you to use your dildo on him?

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