I Want Him to Want Me

I recently loss our third child, our second son. I'm completely devasted but more than that I've loss my confidence as a woman. I don't feel sexy anymore, I definitely don't look like it. We haven't had sex in months, hubby was afraid because of our previous losses. He says, he doesn't want to have sex knowing I'm going through so much and he is really sad which also makes it hard for him to want me sexually. I just want to know what to do, once I'm done healing how do I get him to want me sexually again?