My boyfriend may or may not have a child with another woman. What should I do?

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My boyfriend and I started dating in late July 2018. During that time, he moved to Florida and purchased a house and I moved down from our hometown of Pittsburgh in November 2018. Yesterday, I was snooping through his phone and came across some text messages with another woman from August to October 2018. I was shaking while I was reading these texts. Initially he and this woman seemed to have gone on dates :-( Then, in mid September she thanks him for being her sperm donor and for meeting up with her and having sex :-( finally in late September she sends him a text with a positive pregnancy test. He invites her over in early October for dinner!!! After that, there are no more texts between them. I moved to Florida in late a November, nearly 5 weeks after this.
My boyfriend has never mentioned having a kid so I’m confused. Was he really a donor to her? Why were they going on dates?
I found this woman on Instagram and she does in fact have an 11 month old child. He does resemble my boyfriend as a child but I’m guessing it could be a coincidence? Plus, how many men did she sleep with right? Why hasn’t she asked for child support?
I left everything in Pittsburgh to be with this man and now I’m devastated. He’s such a great person that reading these texts was so hard for me. Should I confront this or just move on? What would you do?
Also, I realize it was wrong of me to snoop though this phone ....

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Do you share a bank account to know he’s not paying child support?
Something made you look at texts, and back to 2018. What was that? Come at that angle and yes, now you do have to tell him and ask what the deal is! Sounds like you were already suspicious. Good luck 🍀

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If he was just a sperm donor, maybe that’s why she didn’t ask for child support. I don’t know honestly. I think you need to talk to him about it :( this is a very tricky situation

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First of all. Dont bring the "I left everything for him".
Naaa, you left because you wanted.
It didn't turn out as you expected but that was your choice to leave.
When making that choice I am sure you assessed what was in here for you.
And if it was to be with him. Than you just learn that your purpose in life is not a man. 
Now. You are in denial so I dont really know if any advise that will not reflect what you want to see will reach you.
You had an idea of him. He just showed you the truth. Accept it. And deal according to that truth.
You have seen the text clearly, what it it that you need to see to beleive what it says.
Implying that the other woman is loose and "you dont know how many men she slept with" is pure despise for a woman that you know nothing about while the one that is really guilty is your man.
You dont need a man to BE. look for your purpose what ever it is. Do things for your own satisfaction dknt look for a man to give you a sense. You have a sense already.
This is already tok much headaches in someone's life. 
If you stay dont complain later to say I believed you. No you believed what you wanted to beleive.

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Were you guys in an exclusive relationship during that time?

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Maybe he is an official donor, as in they have a legal agreement? I would be heart broken but would confront him ASAP! I would be more hurt that he hasn’t shared it with you! Keep us updated!

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If he was just a sperm donor he’d have no contact with the kid, and he wouldn’t be paying child support. Tell him you snooped and ask him. Sounds like he had either a business deal, or did a favor to a friend. The only way you’re ever going to find out is ask, but you’re going to have to explain why you know.

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Girl idk what you should do but I'm just going to say if I saw that on my fiance's phone I would have straight up confronted him. Idgaf how I look it only matters how he looks sending those texts or anything about sex and pregnancy tests. Noooo, nope, no

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Umm, I think you need to speak to him & clear the air. Oh well if you found out that way. You need to figure out exactly what happened. That’s not right at all. You need rethink that relationship. It sucks, but gotta talk about or forever hold your silence.

My boyfriend may or may not have a child with another woman. What should I do?

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