Iv just logged back onto the app after a few years and come across this an I just want to thank everyone if your still here 😂 for the advice!!

Little update - He left and he didn’t come back! THANKGOD!!

So still not sure if he was having affair with the ‘friend’ buttttt…. He met ‘someone else’ within a matter of weeks of leaving us.. she told him she couldn’t have kids and then wham bam thank you mam she falls pregnant… and this is where your jaws will drop.. 😂 She ended up having there baby on our sons 1st birthday..

You really couldn’t make it up. So it’s been a hell of a few years for us. My little boy who I was 15weeks pregnant with is now 2 🥰 my girls are 5 and 10 and we’re all very happy. I have stayed single and focused on my children and healing over the last 3 years… but Iv very recently meet someone and I really think this is my person. He’s wonderful 🥰 So reading all this back is almost bitter sweet.. but anyway!! Thanks for reading if you have! I couldn’t believe how many comments were on here!❤️

Hey ladies, I need opinions on if I’m being unreasonable. I’m 15 weeks pregnant, we have two daughters, 7 and 2.

We’ve been together 8years and had a 6month break 5 years ago, in that time he met this girl, which supposedly nothing happened but they shared a bed together. Well she got back into contact with him 2 years ago over snapchat, he called her beautiful. I let it go, we had just had our second child together. I found other messages to other girls in the same context but again we worked through it. Silly me. This is where the trust issues have stemmed from. Anyway Iv just tried to ignore there friendship, but it’s started to bug me.

Iv had a rough 3 months, with severe sickness, I feel insecure as fuck because I haven’t felt myself and I questioned him about this friendship a week ago and he was saying that he’s just been there for her when she went through a miscarriage and she tried to kill herself 4 years ago when her parents split up. She suffers with depression an he’s been there for her. But they had been talking a lot recently, She’s a few years younger than us, she’s 22 and we’re 27/28. Anyway I spoke to her and she said it was nothing and he’s then telling me he doesn’t want this anymore because I didn’t trust what he was saying, we tried to talk it through but then she’s calling his phone at 11 o’clock at night whilst we’re in the middle of talking it out. Anyway this continued over a few days where I then found a message with him calling her ‘boo boo’ - i was so angry I told him to leave, the stress was to much for me, and coming to packing his stuff he packed his clothes but he couldn’t bring himself to do it’ I obviously shared a few words with this female and she was vile towards me and saying I deserved this, I told her she’s apart of splitting my family up and when she has pregnant and has children, home and partner she’ll understand why I feel insecure about there relationship, he deletes there chats and if anything is said on snapchat it’s automatically deleted. Although apparently it’s nothing 🙄 she hasn’t spoken to him since I had words with her.

Anyway being pregnant and my hormones everywhere Iv given him the ultimatum that he either stops talking to her and we try work this out or that’s it. He says he shouldn’t have to give up a friendship to save our relationship. Iv then backed down slightly and said fine prove to me I can trust your relationship but he’s like I don’t see how I can. To me he’s looking for a easy way out.

I understand he wants to have female friends, but I kinda think when your in a relationship you bring these other people into your relationship, I told him to introduce me to this girl and he said she wouldn’t want to be around us both but she would happily meet up with him like wtf?

Anyways ladies am I wrong ?? Please tell me if I’m being unreasonable or do I kick this guy to the kerb, obviously my mum and friends are saying I’m not wrong but I want outsiders opinions.

Thanks for reading xx

Update - Thanks for all your replies, I knew in wasn’t wrong. He’s still saying he won’t give his friendship up with her to make our relationship work so I think he’s moving into a flat share as of tomorrow. I hope she’s worth it. As for seeing the kids because of covid, he’ll be living with 4/5 other people I guess he won’t be able to see them?

Thanks again everyone xx

UPDATEE - I told him to get out an he’s gone 🙋🏻‍♀️