I’ve feared to have a kid

I was adopted and my dad couldn’t have kids but my mom could.. they decided to adopt.. I know deep down my mom always want to have kids.. my sisters have kids but when they were pregnant my mom gave them hell.. they were in their 20s and on there own. When I got pregnant I did it the way my mom always told me too.. so I figured when I got pregnant that she wouldn’t act the same way she did with my sisters.. I got married first and made sure I had a good job and good credit.. but when I had got pregnant she gave me hell!!! She said loose my number and went off on me how I couldn’t be having a kid.. I had an emotional breakdown so bad and stressed so hard I couldn’t function at my job correctly without crying that I had to get sent home and my emotions were already crazy as it was.. anyways long story short I had a miscarriage and had to get a D&C... do I blame her.. parshly.. but what’s worse is the second time I got pregnant and my husband got divorced it was with a guy I knew.. it was an accident plan b didn’t work and I was practically bullied into getting an abortion at 13 weeks pregnant.. it was very traumatizing my mom kept insulting me and the father didn’t want it and I just felt trapped in a corner to get.. so I got it out the way.. I wish I could take it back but I can’t.. it’s been 2 years later now since my abortion.. but the next time I get pregnant accident or not.. I keeping it idgaf