Sex for the first time

Hey ladies,

So i’ve been talking to this guy for quite sometime and i’m not even gonna lie. I’m 19 this week and I am still a virgin. I know we as strong women should normalise losing your virginity isn’t a race and we all should take our time but I feel like i’m definitely not gonna lose it anytime soon because of the upbringing i was raised in.

As someone in an Asian family that is strict about this sort of stuff, I was taught everytime you have sex even with a condom, it’s the same likeliness you would get pregnant if he didn’t wear a condom.

That terrified me because I was taught this when I first started puberty. And i’ve always thought that way until about 15-16 ish during sex ed when they taught us your chances decrease when wearing a condom. But, i’m 19 now and i am still scared of having sex and especially since I am talking to someone that might lead to potentially sex... Because now I am scared the second I have sex for the first time, I am going to get knocked up.

Please help me and tell me how you girls got over this stigma/pickle cus ya girl needs it 😩🥺