Venting, seriously in need of advice

***Trigger warning*** Very long *** Family member lost her baby and MIL was held to gun point. If you are easily triggered I suggest you skip this one, I don't want to cause anymore heartache. Im sorry if this is all over the place, im just really struggling to keep it together and think atm 😔

I am in dire need of some advice and need to vent. I dont even know what I need. Maybe words of encouragement, prayers or positive vibes. This year has been absolute shit, but the past month has taken the cake for me.

Just yesterday, there was a active shooter in my town. My MIL is a teacher, she was tutoring one of her kids when someone broke into the house and shot and killed two members of the family, the father and his daughter. My MIL managed to get to the bathroom and lock herself in, she had to beg for her life. He eventually let her go, being she had nothing to do with the situation. The shooter ended up wounding a officer and then killed himself..MIL says she wasnt injured in anyway and shes okay, but shes really shook up from this. I had to run out of work yesterday to get to the police station. How do I help her get through this? Ive been through my fair share of similar shitty situations, but damn this one was fucked up.

Then today I get a message from one of my cousins. We're basically like sisters, we grew up together and the 3 of us are a year apart each. The oldest out of us was 5 months pregnant..well she lost him. She had a tear in her placenta and was told that she had to give birth to him or else it would kill her as well. I am so heart broken and i have cried all day so far, again having to leave work. I cant even imagine how shes feeling right now. All of us are getting together tomorrow for a girls night/healing session. My problem is, I dont exactly know how to approach her. Wtf do I even say when I see her?? I dont want to bring up the baby and upset her, but I dont want to avoid talking about it because I dont want her to think I dont care about the situation. What kind of gift can I get her without her feeling like its a pity party? I so badly want to help her feel better as much as I can, but I just don't know what to do. I suck at this kind of stuff, I just dint want to sat or do the wrong thing thats going to trigger her in any way