I met someone a month ago and there hasn’t been a day since that we weren’t together. While I’m trying to be in tune with all aspects and considerations relevant to the newness of our relationship, things are moving rather progressively.

He’s already asserted he loves and is in love with me. My entire family loves him as much as I do. Everything has been perfect. Except we’re finding things we disagree on. Nothing huge or nothing that’s a deal breaker. Mainly because I try being receptive to the insight he shares with me, even if it’s a bit uncomfortable due to my own insecurities or memories. He also tries to be a really active and responsive listener, but sometimes he unintentionally makes me feel silly for sharing my concerns. Like I said, this is no deal breaker and I am willing to see this thru.

We’ve already discussed a future, he’s conversed with my kids’ dad, we’ve talked of moving out of state together (I always wanted to move to this state and he’s from there), we hope to add to our family later down the line.....which brings me to the next part, I got back on BC once he and I met because we were instantly getting close, but I’m 2 days late.

Now, I don’t mean to be dramatic at all, it’s just 2 damn days..but you know how it is when that thought is still kinda there only because you know you’ve been sexually active. 2 days late before he came into my life would mean nothing to me. But I’m waiting to see if my period comes. I’ll test if I become a week or so late. Even though he and I have discussed children, and I’m in love with the idea for future’s sake, there’s a bunch of reasons why now is just not the time.

And, I won’t lie, ever now and again the newness of our relationship intimidates me, even though I know couples married after 2-4 weeks/engaged after 6 weeks etc who are now at the 20-60 year mark in their marriages.

Still, the logical side of me that over analyzes everything and always wants to force everything to “make sense,” is going WHAT ARE THE ODDS lol

In cases where the relationship actually lasted, what is the soonest you’ve began a family with someone?

What are your thoughts on all this? I’m open to new perspectives and learning from others, let’s just keep it kind =)