Need advice

I’ve been seeing this guy for a little while now and we’re very close. Things have been going fairly well, and we have a lot of fun together. Recently he told me that he hates the feeling of being touched.

I didn’t know about how he felt before, and as a person who’s primary love language is touch, I have always been a very physically affectionate person. I thrive on hugs and cuddling and holding hands.. I live for massages or fingers brushing my hair it’s extremely relaxing to me and makes me feel safe.

However it seems that it’s the complete opposite for him.

He doesn’t seem to have a problem when we have sex or anything like that, it’s more like he says he just can’t relax whenever we’re cuddling and I brush my fingers through his hair or massage his back. We talked about this in the car after leaving a party with some friends of ours. He didn’t seem angry or upset or anything, we just kind of got on the topic I guess. One of the things he said was that it means a lot that he lets me, or had been letting me, do these physical things since it makes him so uncomfortable when he’s trying to relax.

I feel terrible for not noticing his discomfort, and I want advice on what I should do moving forward. It also doesn’t help that I don’t know what his love language is, or how to show him affection in that way. He’s usually the one that will come cuddle me, so I had assumed he liked physical affection previously.

Does anyone else have a partner like this? How did you work through it?