No means no - context matters?

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So I'm seeing a lot of people say that "no means no" only applies to sexual situations. This doesn't really sit right with me tbh. I plan to teach my children (both male and female) that no always means no. If they ask someone out and get a no in response then to drop it, you've registered your interest and it's up to the other person to let you know if they change their minds. If you say no then mean it, don't play games with people. A lot of women have been saying they want to be chased though so they always say no the first or second time, this is then getting men to "note it down" so they take it as being told to always continue to pester women for a date.
Am I wrong to think no should always mean no? I'm wondering what the opinions are in CC.

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No always means no. My son is 2 and I already am teaching him that by playing a tickle game where we have to immediately stop when one of us says no. Respecting boundaries should be a part of every social interaction people have.

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I am not a dude. 
But if someone tells me no. For anything. I take them at their word and move on. 
If a woman likes to say no so the man can keep bothering her, well she might just have mental problems. You can be chased without being a dick about it. I am sure the quality of man who continues to pester a women after a no is lower then average

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I actually had a similar conversation with my husband about this. Mini background: in December of 2018 we found out our daughter had anencephaly (neural defect that caused her brain not to develop properly) at our 20 week ultrasound. I told the fetal specialist every week for 14 weeks I did not want to terminate. She would push and instead of asking she would say “do you want to schedule that induction now? You know to terminate.” It was very hard to have to tell her time and time again that I wanted to carry her for as long as possible.
So, I believe when someone says “no” they mean it and if they change they’re mind, they will tell you. No means no in every aspect of life.

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You are not wrong!

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It shouldn't just be "no means no" - it should be "a lack of a yes means no". And a "yes" needs to be enthusiastic, non-coerced, uninhibited, knowledgeable, and freely given. 
And this applies to sharing toys as children, giving relatives hugs and kisses, and sexual activities. It applies to communications and dates and housing arrangements. It applies to drinking the milk out of someone else's fridge.

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Absolutely, 100%. 
I will also be teaching my children regardless of gender that no means no, and their words mean something and will be respected by me and people close to them. 
Consent and respect do not just apply to sex.

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Yes means yes instead of no means no. Some people have trouble asserting no or stop. And this applies to every bit of life. Coercing someone into that yes isn’t a yes, its you pressuring them until they have no will to assert themselves further and that is shitty.
You and your partner want to take your relationship to the next level? An enthusiastic yes with positive body language is the go ahead. Them clearly not being comfortable and you continuing even when they aren’t saying “no.” Thats not a go ahead.
A relative insists on giving your child a hug and they arent into it. Stand up for them. But if your child is open arms and happy to hug grandma or uncle or auntie, then thats good.

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I agree no should mean no in any context. I also agree people should say what they mean. I do think the behavior you're describing is a cultural thing that's dying out. I think it's rooted in that romanticized notion of "playing hard to get" or not looking "easy." I believe we're coming more into a time where openness and honesty are being encouraged and that kind of behavior is being discouraged and shamed. 
I think more people are realizing that kind of fucking around gives rapists and abusers room to blame the victim and claim to be innocent.

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This reminds me of when I was a small child and someone would tickle me and I would say no while laughing over and over and then it started to physically hurt and I would have to scream and kick and punch until they stopped. It definitely caused trauma. I hope people these days know better :’) 
No means no even if I’m smiling and laughing.

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You’re not wrong. I was at my partners house and they are roughhousing with eachother, well his dad encouraged me to join in and he was hurting me. When i said stop his wife (partners mother) said “sorry but you’ll have to get used to rough play mate”.... i can tell she didn’t teach her kids anything about boundaries or consent 🤷🏼‍♀️

No means no - context matters?

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