My husband has herpes...

I feel like I have no one to talk to about this because I want to respect his privacy. So I figured I would come on here anonymously and ask for some advice from you all. 💗

He was tested last week due to what we thought was a yeast infection and it came back positive for HSV-2 (genital herpes). I broke down crying assuming he cheated on me. But the doctor explained that you can have it for up to 5 years with out having a break out or knowing you have it. It can’t spread unless you have sex during a break out.

I went and got tested the next day and just got my results in. Negative!!! Thank God. 🙏🏼

He wasn’t safe with women in the past. He never used condoms. When we started dating I guess I just assumed he’s been tested after every partner. And I guess I also assumed he used protection with the women before me. I was wrong...

I can’t help but to feel so angry towards him. I’m terrified now to have sex with him. I don’t want to take the chance of getting it. I know I can’t be mad at him or take my anger out on him because he had no idea but it’s so hard. I just wish he was more safe in the past. I love him no matter what. But this definitely changes things now. I can’t even look him in the face anymore with out thinking of it.

Some nice advice would be greatly appreciated.