My wife changed me...

Hi Guys,

I'm a first time poster.

I have been married for 4 year to my wife. We have very different personalities and way to view things.

I would say that overall, I'm / was a very (overly) positive guy, always quite enthusiastic, who wants to believe and trust in people and who try to find excuses to people wrong doing.

On the other hand, my wife is quite pessimistic, sees things negatively most of the time and is quite critical of people and things. She will regularly negatively comment on people actions, clothing...

To do her justice, she also has lots of qualities 😊.

Anyway, I notice that after all those years being married to her and being exposed on a daily basis to her negativity, I've become myself quite negative and judgmental. I often find myself criticizing things or people and I really hate myself for that when I take a step back and reflect upon myself. It's not who I was when I enter this marriage and I don't like the person I'm becoming.

I know that not everybody is perfect but how do you do to prevent being affected (contaminated) by your partner's negative sides?

How can I get my old self back?

Thanks for all your answers.